a soulful relationship

If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).

Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email.

Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the i.

muay thai lvl4 #6

no cheryl... oni 2 late boys n me...

skipped, warmup, shadow, 3x bagwk, 3x padwk, 3x sparrin w lutfi, 50 pumps n 50 crunches...

new technique: fwd sweep kick; same as e norm kick but tis's usin e front leg, if xcuted successfully'll b fast n hard...

sparrin w lutfi was not bad, slow pace but gd 4 prac sparrin... e real sparrin's w CHERYL...

enjoyin life

tis ve got 2 b e most relaxin yet fufillin phase of my sch life...

a typical wkdae...

0900~1100: 2 hrs lec
1100~1400: lunch + pool + slack
1400~1600: 2 hrs tut
1600~1900: train + suntan
1900~2200: wk or slack
2200~0830: slack & zzz
0830~0900: wake up & sch rush

feel so laid-back coz theres nothin much 2 do @ sch & wk... feel lk im on a semi sch-break sem... even sem breaks dun feel lk tis coz im often bored 2 death but tis's diff; althou im mitin e same pple everydae but e @mosphere's juz diff everydae...

tink i suit tis kind of semi hectic yet lax lifestyle... shldnt b livin in sg, mayb i shld move 2 an offshore island in ani part of e world where theres sun, sand & sea; w my own resort & gym doin stuffs w e pple i lk... livin a relaxin life instead of screwin myself out here...

LIFE HERE'S JUZ TOO HECTIC 2 BREATHE, TINK & RELAX; ITS 2 KILL...


IM LUVIN & ENJOYIN MY LIFE NOW!!!

luv & hate m900

i do LUV my m900 but @ e same time HATE it so much...

LUV:
e 1.3 ccd cam
brite screen & lite
flip
mp3
big mem card cap
large sms cap
loud speaker
3 alarms

HATE:
e mp3 size restrictN of 5mb
snail pace in movin pics frm hp mem 2 mem card
snail pace in savin cam pics 2 mem card

e thing i HATE most's tt after i painsakinly move pics over 2 mem card, it cant b OPENED coz its 'CORRUPTED' n coz its 'moved' not copied so all e pics r gone!!! T_T


BLOODY FUCKIN HELL!!!


tis happened 2x 2 my oh~so~impt pics; my nong toom pics & my 56 pics taken @ lavendar consistin of xotic cats n e golden mile supermarket... T_T


SUMTIMES I JUZ 1 2 DUMP OFF TIS HP BUT I NOE I CANT BEAR 2... TIL I FIND ANOTHER HP W E SAME BUILD WHICH R E:


nokia 6270
panasonic sa7/mx7/vs7

insurance payout

juz got e offer letter frm e driver's insurance company n my insurance compensatN payout's...


SGD$3000.41!!!


but not all of e $'s goin in2 my pocket...
part of it'll b used 2 pay my outstandin hp bills n mum...
but aniwae its a gd thing tt e case's closed althou my finger's stil in e process of healin n straightenin...

$ n police settled but e physical n psychological me stil isnt...

e end of my tp case... i got banged yet im waived of prosecutN charges n e driver oni got a STERN warnin w/o dp -_-;;; but aniwae its over...

tis's wat i m

Personality Disorder Test Results Paranoid 26% Schizoid 78% Schizotypal 82% Antisocial 78% Borderline 70% Histrionic 38% Narcissistic 26% Avoidant 74% Dependent 58% Obsessive-Compulsive 30%

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Schizoid Personality Disorder - individual generally detached from social relationships, and shows a narrow range of emotional expression in various social settings.

Schizotypal Personality Disorder - individual is uncomfortable in close relationships, has thought or perceptual distortions, and peculiarities of behavior.

Antisocial Personality Disorder - individual shows a pervasive disregard for, and violation of, the rights of others.

Borderline Personality Disorder - individual shows a generalized pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image, and observable emotions, and significant impulsiveness.

Avoidant Personality Disorder - individual is socially inhibited, feels inadequate, and is oversensitive to criticism

Dependent Personality Disorder - individual shows an extreme need to be taken care of that leads to fears of separation, and passive and clinging behavior.

muay thai lvl4 #5

cheryl didnt come 4 trainin but i was oso down coz of mon's trainin so no sparrin n nothin much lost... skipped, warmup, shadow, 3xbag wk, 3x padwk, tech spar, 50 pumps n 50 crunches... it wasnt optimal...

tech spar:
rite kick vs push kick
rite kick+out blk+in blk vs out blk+2x rite kick
out blk+rite knee+rite kick vs rite kick+knee blk+out blk

my toe's bruised so its worsen... knee bruise's dispersin but it stil hurts so no left knees n kicks... no trainin til next wk unless i 1 2 worsen it... sigh~

B.O.R.I.N

new fren of e gym... tot it was fake til i poked it n it hops off -_-;;; but it does look fake...

muay thai lvl4 #4

2dae's trainin's don n me... skipped, warmup, shadow, 3x bagwk [+ 40 low kicks, 40 mid kicks n 20 high kicks], tech spar, 3x spar, 50 pumps n 50 crunches...

tech spar:
kick vs grab+x+left low kick
rite mid kick vs rite low kick
kick vs grab+push+left low kick

sparin's not so gd coz after gettin hit x times i sorta toned down 2 defence n not @tacked so juz got whacked lk crazy... oso coz he's taller n can move outta range faster so its not tt ez 2 hit him n im short so its ez 4 him 2 hit me... w cheryl spar's nv lk tis... i got a BUMP on my left knee frm all his puttin down n my left 'index' toe's oso numb/immobilized frm all e clashin -_-;;;

JOY THESE R JUZ XCUSES!!!
DUN B AFRAID!!!
JUZ CHARGE FWD N WHACK E DAELITES OUTTA HIM!!!

after 2 wks of havin nong toom's foto as my main pic resultin in 200+ hits n msgs frm pple sayin 'hi SEXY', askin 2 b frenz n contacts -_-;;; ve 2 say tt im overwhelmed by e 'response' n ve had enuf 'fun' so ve changed e pic 2 a 'face off' pic... wont delete e pic but it wont b e main again... n apparently those tt msged 'hi SEXY' either 1) didnt c e other pics 2) blind 3) juz tokin crap, aniwae thx 'hitters' 4 viewin...

new diy splint frm e alumafoam splint i got sumtime back... wats left 4 me 2 do's 2 kip my finger straight.. no mata how painful, numb n immobilized it gets... sigh~ hopefully after 1 mth it'll b beta.. doc was surprised tt after sucha long recovery time 4 a small injury 4 sum1 lk me eatin vitamin c & calcium supps everydae... n its stil not ok -_-;;;

aniwae thx 2 e eastshore hosp a&e doc n nurses ^_^

last doc review

last review n did 2 x rays... doc says 2 kip it straight n e x rays showed tt e alignment ve united n its omost anatomical so i dun ve 2 go back liao n can settle e insurance... stil ve 2 take care of it coz pressing it down hard stil hurts so it'll prob take another 1 mth...

it doesnt look ok w e naked eye; oni x rays show it is so...

JUZ VE 2 KIP IT FUCKIN STRAIGHT!!!

ait money gone saga continues... e $$$'s reali GONE!!! sigh...

muay thai lvl4 #3

skipped, warmed up, shadow, 3x bag wk, 1 min push kicks [did 56], 1 min knees [did 80], 3x padwk, 3x spars w cheryl, 50 pumps n 50 whackin crunches...

padwk:
jab+rite hook+left kick
jab+x+2x rite knee+push+rite kick

spars w cheryl was so gd 2dae... tt my studs got knocked out... lots of kicks, punches, grapplins n throws...
LOVE IT SO MUCH!!!

hope e new schedule'll let me train on wed... can jail me in sch aniother daes xcept wed... pls...

ait saga snowball continuatN... matters gettin bigger n worse...

fresh air 4 women 2 encourage women 2 quit smokin... most of e gals @ my side smoke whereas e guys @ my side dun... haha... its diff 4 pple 2 quit in fact most of em started puffin heavily after startin 2 wk coz they say its stress n those shit... 4 me its stil nothin but inconstructive shit... no1 forces u 2 puff its u who 1 2 puff... so stop denyin n blame pushin...

i want 2 quit smokin sg site... after ytd's lunch w e guys i realized tt every1 more or less ve @ least had a stix puffed once... seems tt my old sch tinkin's way outta league... althou i hope tt no 1 smokes but its evident now tt everyware n aniware there r puffers of diff °s ard... im e oni xceptN; who noes 1 dae i may ve 1 in my mouth althou all i do now's 2 hold it between my fingers...

view of e crowd @ ait ytd aka e riot...

ait closure saga frm zaobao.com... english ver @ straitstimes unavailable coz its paid; r there too many pple readin straitstimes online tt they decide its profitable so they charge? wats e pt of a newspaper online tt pple cant access xcept those tt can afford it???

muay thai lvl4 #2

skipped, shadow, 3x bagwk, 3x padwk, tech spar, 50 pumps n 50 whackin crunches...

tech spar:
x+left hook vs bend backwards+x+left hook
left blk+rite knee+rite kick
2x jab+2x rite kick
2x rite kick vs left out blk+side push kick
2x rite kick vs left low push kick+grab+rite low kick
jab+x+left hook+rite kick

v long since i last held pads n im down @ it sigh~ but 2dae was full attendance haha

I DUN VE A SCH

IM OFFICIALLY SCHLESS!!!
no more ait yet not informatics
i blong 2 noware n no 1

no sch
no lecturers
no assignments
noware 2 go

juz wait 4 e xam papers 2 come

sigh 1st time study til e sch disappears
is casetrust gd or bad?
is it too drastic?
r e requirements too strict or inflexible?
kipin 2 rules but sacrifice thousands of others
students schless
staff jobless
pple confused n angry
its lk throwin pple in2 hell in e name of e govt

is e sch reali tt bad after 13 yrs?
lyin management
kipin pple in e dark
stil in denial after e facts r xposed
shld they ve opened it up early than hit pple lk a meteorite hits earth?
is it tt fucked up

we lost him n he left an angry man
we stil ve her hangin on 2 us

SIGH...

ITS E END...
THERES NO TURNIN BACK...
GAME OVER...

wao no 1's online... v long since i last saw tis... tis early too... every1's zzz xcept me... e insomist... too mani tots floatin in my mind...

muay thai lvl4 #1

schs cancelled sigh~ wonder whens e next sch dae @ ware...

skipped, warmup, shadow, 2x bag wk, tech spar, 1x spar w don, 1x spar w joy, 50 pumps, 50 1/2 crunches n 20 full crunches...

tech spar:
jab+x+rite knee
jab+x+rite knee+rite kick
blk+rite knee+ kick vs kick+push+kick

sparrin wasnt optimal w don e runner coz hes always runnin abt... + hes tall so its not ez 2 hit him -_-;;;

spar w joy was v motivated... kicks, punches, blks, push kicks, everythin... leg got grabbed n thrown was i... but its a good spar...

althou im @ 'lvl4' coz of e # of lessons taken but my fight quality n std arent up there yet...

sigh

class @ ait stamford lata
wonder where it'll b after tt
wonder who'll b standin in front of me after tt

happy oso 1 dae
sad oso 1 dae
wk/study oso 1 dae
no wk/study oso 1 dae
bz oso 1 dae
slack oso 1 dae
mind buggin oso 1 dae
mind laxin oso 1 dae

no mata wat happens
e planet stil spins
it doesnt stop 4 1 individual
time stil passes

so y not relax
y frown n fret over wat havent happened or try 2 anticipate wat'll happen
coz wat u tink may differ frm wat'll happen
since we cant c e future
take a step @ a time 4 uncertainties
cont ur way when things r certain

wish tis's but a dream
not e nitemare
life'll nv b e same

w/o e same place
w/o e same pple

boxin cabaret

finali got e tixs thou its quite far back... oso got another 'beautiful boxer' vcd coz didnt xpect an autograph sessN so didnt bring mine -_-"

e show was abt 1 hr n its reali nongtoom & babe, her 'partner'... comprise of 6 rounds:

wai kru: v modern wai kru w likay [trad thai dance]
nong toom vs u: +ve interactN w e audience; she invited 2 guys up 2 'dance' w her haha
nong toom vs man: e men women luv, e men men luv n e men she luvs; BRUCE LEE!!!
nong toom vs love: her x bf n her
nong toom vs idol: choregraphed dance moves of shooter angelina jolie, fightin michelle yeoh n 棍 wieldin 花木蘭
nong toom vs muaythai: how muaythai n her coach, pika changed her life
nong toom vs nong toom: e old nong toom n e new nong toom

there were thai, chinese n english songs in e show n of her own xperiences since tis's abt her life... abt her gettin rejected by e public, get ogled @ by immigratN officers n pple sayin 'his boobs look real'... 2 us its funny but 2 her its a long way down frm e time she decided 2 fulfil her wish 2 b a woman...

after tt was an autograph sessN n she signed e vcd i got n i was bz cammin her ^_^ @ e end kk n i took a pic w her... but e pics didnt turn out as clear as i tot sigh~ but aniwae its a wish come true ^_^

HE FIGHTS LIKE A MAN SO HE CAN BCOME A WOMAN

NOW SHE IS A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN

boxin cabaret's BACK!!! but e dumb me tot it was sistic when its by tixcharge -_-;;; wah lao eh... but aniwae tix stil available so im gona watch it tis time by hook or by crook...

flunked again...

sigh i

F.L.U.N.K.E.D

my tp again...

e warmup wasnt tt bad but e test wasnt so... crank n s coz, dir change n up slope was ok juz tt parkin... parallel n vertical both strike pole... + abit here n there = 44 pts... on top of tt it was rainin... if i cleared e circuit i wld ve passed w 18 pts...

stil noe nuts abt sch... dunno e schedule... dunno e lecturers... hope they'll all make it over...

wanted 2 cycle 2 e hawker 2 get food on e v high joy's bike... didnt reach there coz of e rain n came back 1/2 wet...

SIGH...